We are a couple months out from our second strabismus surgery with my two year old son, Joel. We have been working through eye issues since he was about six months old. I was getting into a groove with it all. The monthly doctors appointments, the patching, and strategizing how to keep the latest pair of Miraflex glasses in one piece and on his head.
But now we are moving into a new phase of his eye care. The post surgery phase. Sure we have been through this once before, but after the first surgery, it was obvious we were not done. His eyes were not aligned. This time we had better results. It is still not perfect (his eyes are drifting a little out versus drifting in like he had before), but his wonderful eye doctor is closely monitoring the situation.
So where do we go from here? Where does a concerned parent turn their attention when the surgery is done and results are looking positive?
I’m learning right along with you, but here is where I have started:
Make sure you are attending regular follow up appointments. Things might be looking good, but make sure you are attending your follow up appointments and still asking questions. Listen to your doctor and stay involved. Little eyes can change a lot during these post-surgery months and you want to be sure you’re staying on top of their care.
Don’t be afraid to ask. Ask your doctor what your child’s long term plan is. How frequent should your appointments be now? What are “warning signs” for you to look for? They have experience in similar cases and will be able to give you a roadmap for future care.
Dust off your other goals. Did you have any items you wanted to work on with your child, but put off for whatever reason due to his eye care? I will admit one for me was discipline. Joel was just turning two when he had his second surgery. He and his twin brother were right in that wonderful stage where their favorite word was “No” and everything they could get their hands on was being thrown across the room. Because we were going through surgery with Joel, I gave him an easier pass than I did his brother in disciplining these issues. However the issues have not gone away. I know now the best thing I can do for my son is provide the same structure for discipline his brothers are receiving.
Keep your networks! Stay tuned into the Little Four Eyes Facebook group, blog, and other resources that have been helpful for you. You never know when you’ll come across something that can help you with whatever stage your child is at right now.
What has worked for you? How did you cross into the next phase of eye care post-surgery? I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Marie McNary is a wife and mother of three energetic little boys. She likes dogs, cookies, and can be found blogging about her crazy life at Home in the Heartland.