1. Does she say why she won’t wear them? If it’s because they hurt or feel weird, try going back to the shop and see if they need to be adjusted.

If she doesn’t like how they look, is there any chance at all of getting a second back up pair that she can pick out? Having two pair of glasses has really helped us with Zoe – she’s able to choose each morning while glasses to wear – that gives her some choice and some control in the matter.

2. Would she respond at all to someone else who she knows, likes, and trusts, who already wears glasses, talking to her about it? What about enlisting friends and relatives to talk about how excited they are to see her new glasses and really talk up how lovely and exciting they are?

3. One parent I know set her daughter’s room as a “glasses-free zone.” That meant that if her daughter needed to take a bit of a break from her glasses, she could, she just needed to be in her room to do so. Again, that gave her daughter some control in wearing her glasses, and let her know that it was ok to take short breaks (her daughter stopped using the room for breaks pretty early on, if I remember correctly).

4. You could ask your eye doctor for eye drops, they dilate the eyes and make it impossible for your daughter to focus without the glasses (with farsightedness, you can use eye muscles focus even without glasses, it just causes eyestrain and pulls eyes out of alignment, but that’s why it can be so hard to get kids who are farsighted to wear glasses, because they don’t see an immediate improvement in their vision with glasses). So the drops can make it so your daughter sees the difference in her vision when she puts them on.

Good luck to you and your daughter and please keep us updated on how things go!!

Keep us updated! And good luck!

I think i might try making less of a deal out of them. Put them on him, and when he throws them off, try again without getting upset or trying to talk about how happy they make you. If he screams or cries, take s break, and don’t talk about them. Are there any activities that really, really interest him, or things that he just loves to look at? I’d try to have those activities around for him to do, maybe even get him engaged and then try to slip the glasses on. Some parents have had luck taking their kids somewhere outside the house where things are more interesting. One thing that worked for us was having Zoe put glasses on my face first, then she was more willing to let me put hers on her face. I would definitely not force them on him (though believe me, when we were struggling to get Zoe to wear hers, I was tempted to try to hold her down and force hers on, too).

If you’re still struggling, you could ask your doctor about eye drops to go in his eyes before he puts on the glasses. The drops make it so he can’t focus without glasses, the theory being he’ll realize that the glasses help him see and will wear them. Problem being that eye drops are not easy either, and might just upset him even more, and they make him much more light sensitive.

Good luck to you, know that you’re doing a good job, even if it doesn’t seem like it, and please keep us updated.