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  1. Tanya
    April 14, 2009 at 2:00 am | #1

    My son is 4 and we had no idea he has any problem with his vision. He was tested at school and we recvd a letter suggesting we have further testing. Well we did and were shocked with the news that he was near-sighted and dbl stig. Stunned I demanded a second opn and was told pretty much the same thing. However the Dr said we should gradually increase the lenses. We got his first pair today and he says he sees dbl and doesnt want to keep them on…. what do we do?

  2. Corrie
    April 14, 2009 at 12:02 pm | #2

    I would definitely call the PO or opthamologist that prescribed these lenses. I am not an expert on this, but generally when our children see double, it’s because they cross their eyes in order to compensate for poor vision. If he is nearsighted, the glasses should really make a difference in his vision. Maybe he needs to have the prescription that he really needs rather than a gradual increase in the lenses. I have not heard that they do that for nearsightedness. I can tell you from my own experience that if he has an astigmatism that has never been corrected it takes some time to get used to the glasses. I remember feeling like the ground was uneven when I first got my glasses. Maybe getting him to keep them on consistently for a couple of days and seeing if it gets better is a solution? Hang in there. The first few weeks are the hardest as there is so much to take in! Once he gets used to his glasses, he will want to wear them as it helps him see so much better!

  3. April 14, 2009 at 3:08 pm | #3

    Hi Tanya, I definitely agree with Corrie – I would call his eye doctor and ask especially about seeing double. When kids see double, they will often suppress the vision from one eye which can lead to amblyopia. I do know that prescriptions can take a while to get used to – I remember one change for myself where for 2 days things that I knew were straight looked curved.

    I’m going to post your question on the main page and ask if anyone else with nearsighted kids has run in to this.

  4. Courtney B
    November 5, 2009 at 1:31 am | #4

    I just stumbled onto this website and love it. We found out that our 18 month old daughter needs glasses and patching. I’m completely overwhelmed, worried, and of course, blaming myself. It was great to read the starting out section and advice from others, I feel slightly more at ease. I’m sure that I will continue to refer to this website in the next several months.

    • amomofelly
      November 5, 2009 at 1:49 am | #5

      Welcome Courtney – sounds like you are an awesome parent and your daughter is SUPER lucky to have you =) Hang in there and keep us updated! Hopefully I’ll get the starting out patching page done soon!

  5. Annette
    January 27, 2010 at 11:36 pm | #6

    My son (aged 5) has just been told he needs glasses. He was excited initially and tried on some with superman decorations on the wings, but then in the car on the way home asked – What if people laugh at me with glasses on. I told him if they did, it would only be because they were jealous and wished they had them too. However, it struck a chord with me. I remember distinctly the day I got my glasses. I was 5 too. They arrived in a cardboard package. Little pink National Health ones with wire bits for around the ears. My parents marvelled at how lovely I was and I felt like the bees knees… and then I walked into the class to taunts of “Specky four eyes! Ha Ha” and I was heartbroken. I avoid wearing glasses when I can myself because I feel very unattractive in them and have a real thing about them after growing up with horrible glasses until I was 16. I am within the visual limit to drive without glasses – just – so I avoid them. Trying hard to protect my son from a similar experience. I’m worried about how he will adjust. Children can be very cruel….

  6. Megs497
    March 25, 2010 at 3:04 pm | #7

    Here is our unraveling story. We have a 4 year old who we just found out is very farsighted. The doctor also says she has slight lazy eye in both eyes. So I have since scheduled an appt with a pediatric opthamalogist but cant get in until September. So for now we are left with a +8.25 both eyes prescription for her first pair of glasses. (which are not in yet) The doctor did say the glasses will make everything very blurry until she gets used to them and gave me drops to put in to dialate her eyes if she wont wear them. I am just wondering if this sounds at all familiar to anyone here. Is this common? It sounds extreme to throw these glasses on her that are so strong, but I am so ignorant to glasses and eyes that I thought I could get some words of advise here. I just want to be sure I am doing the right thing to help her.

    • March 25, 2010 at 3:22 pm | #8

      Welcome Megs, That is a strong farsighted prescription, though I know there are many parents on here whose children have stronger prescriptions. The difficulty with farsighted prescriptions is that children can use their accommodative reflex to help them focus and overcome their farsightedness. That’s why so many of us parents (myself included) never had any idea their child was farsighted. This also means that if they’ve been using that to focus a lot, it can be hard for them to relax their eye muscles and let their glasses do the work for them. But I do know a lot of kids who took to their strong prescription glasses right away, so don’t be too discouraged. The dilating drops will stop your daughter from being able to use her accommodative reflex, which is why it is sometimes used to help introduce farsighted children to glasses. If she absolutely refuses the glasses, then the drops can make it so that she does see much better with her glasses. But the drops are not always easy, they sting, and I would try introducing the glasses without them for a week or so first. It will probably take her a while to get used to those glasses in any case, but if she needs that strong of a prescription, then it’s good that she’ll have those glasses now rather than waiting until September.

      I think it’s really too bad that you’ll need to wait so long to see a pediatric ophthalmologist, though! How frustrating! Will you have a follow-up appointment with the doctor that prescribed your daughter’s glasses?

      Best of luck to you and please keep us updated on how things are going!

  7. Megs497
    March 25, 2010 at 4:31 pm | #9

    Already I feel better. Thats so much for giving me confidence that this is a normal approach and information so I better understand whats happening with her eyes. We do have a follow up appt with her doctor after she has worn the glasses for 3 weeks. Thanks again and I will update on whats happening, and with future questions which I am certain will come up!

    • amomofelly
      March 25, 2010 at 11:49 pm | #10

      I love our pediatric opthamologist, but they are hard to get into too. I would call them every morning and ask if they have had a cancelation for that day. I am always upbeat, cheerful and insistant to see the doctor as soon as possible. Hopefully you will be able to see a specialist sooner than later. My neighbor had the same issue with the office and did this. She was origionally given an appointment 6 months away, but ended up having her girls seen in just a few weeks.

      • Megs497
        April 15, 2010 at 2:17 pm | #11

        Just an update.. Isabelle is doing awesome with her glasses. We got them 1 week ago and she has not taken them off. I am so proud of her. Thanks again for the help.

      • April 15, 2010 at 3:31 pm | #12

        Hooray! Thanks for the update

  8. crystal wilson
    May 31, 2010 at 11:21 pm | #13

    My little girl is 9m old and we knew that she had a lazy eye a borth i seen it right away!anyway her DR. sent her to a P.O so he told her dad and i that she needed glasses she in 50+ in both and f.s and she has a lazy eye in one ! so now we got her glasses but i cant get her to keep them on at all not even for a min she pulls them off then they hurt her nose and then all she will do is cry ! so can any one HELP ME !

    • June 2, 2010 at 2:58 am | #14

      Hi Crystal, and welcome! How long has she had the glasses? There are some stories of babies taking to their glasses right away, but most of them take a few weeks to even a month to get used to them. Can you get her to the glasses shop to just make sure that they’re adjusted correctly? She won’t wear them if they hurt, so that’s probably the first thing I’d check. After that, it’s really a matter of patience and staying positive (even if you want to scream, and believe me, when we started Zoe on her glasses, there were days I wanted to scream). Just be sure you’re putting them on her face with a smile on your face, tell her she looks great, and then try whatever you can to distract her. You’ll probably have to repeat that many times. It just takes time until they get used to their glasses and will wear them.

      Good luck and keep us updated on how things go!

      • crystal wilson
        June 2, 2010 at 1:35 pm | #15

        she has only had them about 2 1/2 weeks ! but she had her kidney taken out a week ago ! i think they hurt her i have a hard time geting them on her face and on her ears! we take her to the P/O on the 8th so i hope we can get somthing done with her then i seen some frames on here that i realy like the miraflex ones the good thing is my eye place has them .

        thanks and i will !

      • June 2, 2010 at 2:28 pm | #16

        Oh goodness, that’s just a lot for her to have gone through in such a short time – I can definitely imagine that it might take her more time to settle into the glasses.

        I’m glad you have another appointment soon, I’d definitely ask about whether they can adjust the frames to hurt her less. You might even try taking her in earlier for adjustments if you have the time. Are her glasses leaving any marks? Zoe’s were leaving dark marks on her nose, I thought it meant we’d need new glasses (hers were 1 1/2 years old), but they were able to adjust them to fit better.

      • crystal wilson
        June 2, 2010 at 2:33 pm | #17

        i will look in to all that when we go to the appointment ! yes she has alot ing on with her she has been sick since b4 i had her and it just keeps adding up its like every time we go to the doctor they are sending me to a new one !

      • crystal wilson
        June 3, 2010 at 2:19 pm | #18

        ANN I JUST WANT TO THANK YOU EMILY HAS HAD HER GLASSES ON ABOUT 15 MIN NOW AND DNT EVEN CARE THANKS FOR ALL YOUR HELP

      • June 3, 2010 at 4:03 pm | #19

        Hooray!! I hope she continues to do better – I bet she will!

      • crystal wilson
        June 3, 2010 at 6:27 pm | #20

        she had them on for about 2 hours she did so good! i was so happy still am im going to try again here in a little to get her to keep them on again!

      • crystal wilson
        June 16, 2010 at 3:47 pm | #21

        well emily has to have a surgery on her eye on june 30th so nw we knw why can want ware them

  9. Jade
    August 8, 2010 at 10:32 am | #22

    Hi! I have a question…
    What do you do for your swimming lessons? My little one is glasses free for 40 minutes, but it really bugs me because she goes cross-eyed to accommodate for her farsightedness (+4 both eyes). She’s only 19 months old.

    Do any of you have prescription goggles for your little ones? Or do you just let them wear their goggles in?

    She’s only had glasses for a week and a half, and it only took her two days to get used to them. Now she cries when we take them off, and says “better” when we put them on. We’re so relieved! Now it seems strange to see her without them!

    I don’t want to get prescription goggles until we know for certain whether the prescription is going to change.

    Personally I have nothing against her wearing her glasses in once a week for 30 minutes. They only go under the water a few times during the lesson. Do you think the glasses would rust?

    Thanks,
    Jade.
    PS: Loved this site for it’s advice and other articles, and Little Chiara loves looking at the children in glasses… every time I walk past the computer she says “glasses, glasses!!!” and wants me to open the gallery! So cute. She takes delight in looking at others with glasses. It warms my heart.

    • August 8, 2010 at 2:05 pm | #23

      Thanks Jade! My daughter goes without glasses for her swim lessons. It bothers me to see her cross her eyes, too, but she doesn’t seem to have trouble seeing, and like you, I didn’t want to buy prescription goggles until her prescription settled. I do know a lot of other parents here have ordered prescription goggles, and I think if the prescription is off a little, it’s probably not too much of a big deal. There is a post about goggles if you are interested in links to places where you can order some: http://littlefoureyes.com/2009/07/02/reader-question-prescription-swim-goggles/

  10. Bev
    August 31, 2010 at 11:20 pm | #24

    Hi, i’m new to this site and just wondered if anyone one had any knowledge they could share with me.
    My daughter is 9 months old and has been prescribed her first set of glasses her sister was 19 months before she got hers. She has no lazy eye or squint but eye drop test gave her a prescription of right +2.0 and left +3.0. The opthamologist said this wasnt quite as high as needed but would start her off.
    Has anyone else had a similar expeience and know if having glasses so young helps or if its worth waiting until they are older?
    Many thanks Bev

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